We're all mortal...

[dinamic22]

I am going to quote something an elderly gent said to me years ago "if you worry you die,  if you don't worry you die,  so why worry?" when i'm stressed i always think of this & it does kind of put things in to perspective.

Aww Sammy13 heres a

[ausfost]

it's all a state of mind,so the experts say. here follows some gumpf:


The fact is happiness is not a destination or objective and it’s not something we eventually arrive at. It is something we do. It is an attitude to life. It’s our relationship to the way we feel about life not the way life makes us feel. In short happiness is something that you can achieve right now – if you want to.
The reality is that we become addicted to nothing more than our emotional state, and, believe it or not, our minds generate the very chemicals we need to satisfy our emotional addiction, whatever it may be – anger, depression, sadness, victim-mentality or joyful, happy, positive, upbeat, etc. In essence if you need to feel bad about something your brain will produce ‘bad-juice’, and if you need to feel good about something your brain will produce ‘good juice’.
What would you rather generate – good stuff or bad stuff? The choice is actually yours.
There is now an abundance of research that proves that being happy is good for your health. Look it up on the wonderful internet! It is also claimed that happiness could be more important than smoking in determining your health.
Dr Derek Cox, Director of Public Health at Dumfries and Galloway NHS, suspects that for decades health professionals have been missing a big trick in improving the health of the nation.
"We've spent years saying that giving up smoking could be the single most important thing that we could do for the health of the nation”. Yet there is mounting evidence that happiness might be at least as powerful a predictor, if not a more powerful predictor than some of the other lifestyle factors that we talk about in terms of cigarette smoking, diet, physical activity and those kind of things."
“If you are happy you are likely in the future to have less in the way of physical illness than those who are unhappy.”
Dr Derek Cox, Director of Public Health
Andrew Steptoe, the British Heart Foundation Professor of Psychology at University College London, has found that happier people also have greater protection against things like heart disease and stroke.
"We know that stress which has bad effects on biology, leads to those bad changes as far as health is concerned," said Mr. Steptoe. "What we think is happening is that happiness has the opposite effect and has a protective effect on these same biological pathways".

righty ho when can i get a repeat prescription of happiness!

[ripple27]

Sept 3, 2013 0:37:57 GMT sammy13 said:

The main things in life are good health, and good friends ( family, partners etc ).
It doesn't matter how much money you have if you are ill, you can not enjoy it.
I was asked what I would like for xmas last year, I replied no-one can give me it.
My answer was a week, just a week of been pain and illness free. Why, because I can no longer remember what it feels like to be fit and healthy.

Couldn't agree with you more Sammy once your health lets you down it doesn't matter about the rest of the stuff unless by having it you can regain your health, so these are for you

in the hope it puts a smile on your face for a minute

[ripple27]

Sept 3, 2013 9:02:10 GMT ausfost said:

it's all a state of mind,so the experts say. here follows some gumpf:


The fact is happiness is not a destination or objective and it’s not something we eventually arrive at. It is something we do. It is an attitude to life. It’s our relationship to the way we feel about life not the way life makes us feel. In short happiness is something that you can achieve right now – if you want to.
The reality is that we become addicted to nothing more than our emotional state, and, believe it or not, our minds generate the very chemicals we need to satisfy our emotional addiction, whatever it may be – anger, depression, sadness, victim-mentality or joyful, happy, positive, upbeat, etc. In essence if you need to feel bad about something your brain will produce ‘bad-juice’, and if you need to feel good about something your brain will produce ‘good juice’.
What would you rather generate – good stuff or bad stuff? The choice is actually yours.
There is now an abundance of research that proves that being happy is good for your health. Look it up on the wonderful internet! It is also claimed that happiness could be more important than smoking in determining your health.
Dr Derek Cox, Director of Public Health at Dumfries and Galloway NHS, suspects that for decades health professionals have been missing a big trick in improving the health of the nation.
"We've spent years saying that giving up smoking could be the single most important thing that we could do for the health of the nation”. Yet there is mounting evidence that happiness might be at least as powerful a predictor, if not a more powerful predictor than some of the other lifestyle factors that we talk about in terms of cigarette smoking, diet, physical activity and those kind of things."
“If you are happy you are likely in the future to have less in the way of physical illness than those who are unhappy.”
Dr Derek Cox, Director of Public Health
Andrew Steptoe, the British Heart Foundation Professor of Psychology at University College London, has found that happier people also have greater protection against things like heart disease and stroke.
"We know that stress which has bad effects on biology, leads to those bad changes as far as health is concerned," said Mr. Steptoe. "What we think is happening is that happiness has the opposite effect and has a protective effect on these same biological pathways".

righty ho when can i get a repeat prescription of happiness!

That is very intense, but how can people remain to be happy when there are people out there that make it their lives goal to take that happiness away from them no matter how hard you want to be happy sometimes life throws you a curve ball and you have no say in the matter and it stays with you for a long time, so as much as l love your theory l don't see how it can be appleid as a general senario? Not shooting the messenger just asking a valid question and would love an answer and yes have tried to brush stuff under the carpet but it has a nasty habit of creaping back out when you least expect or want it to

[griffon10]

[ausfost]

ripple27, taken me a little while to type this out, please don’t think I am having a dig at or making light of people whose situation is difficult, especially due to medical reasons, I do understand about depression etc. I am in no way proposing that a person can “just get over it” by thinking positive,

I was aiming more towards people who feel their situation cannot be improved, for example they haven’t got a job or a decent job, the weather is bad, general outlook on life which is negative, it is a lot easier to list the bad things than the good, try making a list yourself. the negatives come easy.
Many people will immediately dismiss the concept of changing your attitude and being happier as being ‘too good to be true’ but think about it. What if it were true, wouldn’t that be good? The fact is whatever you thought about in relation to my post is simply down to your focus of attention, or to put it another way, you look for only those things which your mind and senses are attuned to find. That’s why for some the glass is half-full and for others half-empty so to speak.
It does appear to be unachievable, the truth of the matter is that it does take hard work and along the way there will be many “failures” you must balance any attempt at "being positive" with an understanding that the reality is, it's going to be an ongoing struggle.

There is no doubt that some people will try to throw a spanner in the works and you would not be human if you could switch everything off and walk around with a smile on your face all the time not caring what happens around you. Life can deliver some terrible blows. However you can adjust the way you approach the things that impact negatively on your life, again this does take practice and effort. I do have days when I “hate my job” or feel down but they are now few and far between, What you can do is try to understand why you feel like you do, you need to look at what it is that is affecting you, are you able to influence it or is it completely out of your control? If it is the latter then there is nothing you can do but live with it so it means changing your outlook and searching for any (even the smallest) positives, if you can change it then you need to take control and go for it, and yes it is easier said than done.

It is the way you deal with failures, the meaning you attribute to them and the positive experiences you can draw from them, which makes the difference

[sammy13]

Sept 3, 2013 7:27:09 GMT dinamic22 said:

I am going to quote something an elderly gent said to me years ago "if you worry you die,  if you don't worry you die,  so why worry?" when i'm stressed i always think of this & it does kind of put things in to perspective.

Aww Sammy13 heres a

Thanks Di.

[sammy13]

Sept 3, 2013 9:13:22 GMT ripple27 said:

Sept 3, 2013 0:37:57 GMT sammy13 said:

The main things in life are good health, and good friends ( family, partners etc ).
It doesn't matter how much money you have if you are ill, you can not enjoy it.
I was asked what I would like for xmas last year, I replied no-one can give me it.
My answer was a week, just a week of been pain and illness free. Why, because I can no longer remember what it feels like to be fit and healthy.

Couldn't agree with you more Sammy once your health lets you down it doesn't matter about the rest of the stuff unless by having it you can regain your health, so these are for you

in the hope it puts a smile on your face for a minute

Thankyou

[sammy13]

Sept 3, 2013 9:21:23 GMT ripple27 said:

Sept 3, 2013 9:02:10 GMT ausfost said:

it's all a state of mind,so the experts say. here follows some gumpf:


The fact is happiness is not a destination or objective and it’s not something we eventually arrive at. It is something we do. It is an attitude to life. It’s our relationship to the way we feel about life not the way life makes us feel. In short happiness is something that you can achieve right now – if you want to.
The reality is that we become addicted to nothing more than our emotional state, and, believe it or not, our minds generate the very chemicals we need to satisfy our emotional addiction, whatever it may be – anger, depression, sadness, victim-mentality or joyful, happy, positive, upbeat, etc. In essence if you need to feel bad about something your brain will produce ‘bad-juice’, and if you need to feel good about something your brain will produce ‘good juice’.
What would you rather generate – good stuff or bad stuff? The choice is actually yours.
There is now an abundance of research that proves that being happy is good for your health. Look it up on the wonderful internet! It is also claimed that happiness could be more important than smoking in determining your health.
Dr Derek Cox, Director of Public Health at Dumfries and Galloway NHS, suspects that for decades health professionals have been missing a big trick in improving the health of the nation.
"We've spent years saying that giving up smoking could be the single most important thing that we could do for the health of the nation”. Yet there is mounting evidence that happiness might be at least as powerful a predictor, if not a more powerful predictor than some of the other lifestyle factors that we talk about in terms of cigarette smoking, diet, physical activity and those kind of things."
“If you are happy you are likely in the future to have less in the way of physical illness than those who are unhappy.”
Dr Derek Cox, Director of Public Health
Andrew Steptoe, the British Heart Foundation Professor of Psychology at University College London, has found that happier people also have greater protection against things like heart disease and stroke.
"We know that stress which has bad effects on biology, leads to those bad changes as far as health is concerned," said Mr. Steptoe. "What we think is happening is that happiness has the opposite effect and has a protective effect on these same biological pathways".

righty ho when can i get a repeat prescription of happiness!

That is very intense, but how can people remain to be happy when there are people out there that make it their lives goal to take that happiness away from them no matter how hard you want to be happy sometimes life throws you a curve ball and you have no say in the matter and it stays with you for a long time, so as much as l love your theory l don't see how it can be appleid as a general senario? Not shooting the messenger just asking a valid question and would love an answer and yes have tried to brush stuff under the carpet but it has a nasty habit of creaping back out when you least expect or want it to

I find the best way is to look around you at those who have nothing or are really ill.
That way you say to yourself I have nothing to complain about at all.
If you compare yourself to your rich neighbours or the bloke down the road who does extreme sports, or to models, and stars in the glossys then you will always feel you are inferior.

[ripple27]

Sept 3, 2013 10:40:28 GMT ausfost said:

ripple27, taken me a little while to type this out, please don’t think I am having a dig at or making light of people whose situation is difficult, especially due to medical reasons, I do understand about depression etc. I am in no way proposing that a person can “just get over it” by thinking positive,

I was aiming more towards people who feel their situation cannot be improved, for example they haven’t got a job or a decent job, the weather is bad, general outlook on life which is negative, it is a lot easier to list the bad things than the good, try making a list yourself. the negatives come easy.
Many people will immediately dismiss the concept of changing your attitude and being happier as being ‘too good to be true’ but think about it. What if it were true, wouldn’t that be good? The fact is whatever you thought about in relation to my post is simply down to your focus of attention, or to put it another way, you look for only those things which your mind and senses are attuned to find. That’s why for some the glass is half-full and for others half-empty so to speak.
It does appear to be unachievable, the truth of the matter is that it does take hard work and along the way there will be many “failures” you must balance any attempt at "being positive" with an understanding that the reality is, it's going to be an ongoing struggle.

There is no doubt that some people will try to throw a spanner in the works and you would not be human if you could switch everything off and walk around with a smile on your face all the time not caring what happens around you. Life can deliver some terrible blows. However you can adjust the way you approach the things that impact negatively on your life, again this does take practice and effort. I do have days when I “hate my job” or feel down but they are now few and far between, What you can do is try to understand why you feel like you do, you need to look at what it is that is affecting you, are you able to influence it or is it completely out of your control? If it is the latter then there is nothing you can do but live with it so it means changing your outlook and searching for any (even the smallest) positives, if you can change it then you need to take control and go for it, and yes it is easier said than done.

It is the way you deal with failures, the meaning you attribute to them and the positive experiences you can draw from them, which makes the difference

I totally agree with you and as l told my young son when it seemed l would have to loose our home and go into rented 'think of this as an Adventure not a Disaster' and that is how we do live our lifes but when unforseen things come along ie attempted rape by the gas man it has an impact on me that is hard to shake off as l feel l treat people with respect and do realise however bad my situation is there are others worse off than l am. these are so you realise l am not having a go at anyone on here

[Ron]

As I was walking along the beach I saw a Tramp with one boot.I said you have lost a boot and he said "No I just found a boot "

or

When I was young I complained at not having any good shoes until I saw a person with no feet