Wedding help

[pinkvaper]

Hi All

Another thread got me to thinking about my upcoming wedding which needs to get planned sometime soon - looking for some advice from you guys - the kind you don't see on wedding forums hehe

Anyone got any advice on things you wish someone would've told you while wedding planning? Any possible pitfalls or disasters that I should account for and make a plan b for? Any hints or tips welcome from you that know much more than I

As a reference - no date set but looking at 80 guests in the usual style wedding...

[pixiguru]

Are you watching don't tell the bride?? Just don't do that lol

[Perpetua]

Karma's just had her daughter's wedding this year Cass, so she'll be mine of information I'd think.

My advice would be, have the day you would both like, enjoy & remember . . . not what others might think you should have.

[FirinBlanks]

If you want your parents involved (and more importantly ask them who NEEDS to be there), don't expect to have a "small intimate" wedding

[pinkvaper]

Unusually it is the other half is planning most of it! I was never big into weddings but he wants big and bright, I'd love small & intimate so we are meeting in the middle - 80 still seems loads to me

It's hard trying to do just what we want that will be the hardest thing I think! Hope Karma sees this and she may have some golden tips too

Thanks for the replies - will make sure not to watch don't tell the bride although I've already seen a few...shhh

[meeee]

Make sure he will turn up. I know 2 girls in the last year who have jilted At the last minute.

[pinkvaper]

Oct 23, 2012 21:55:06 GMT meeee said:

Make sure he will turn up. I know 2 girls in the last year who have jilted At the last minute.

oh no....he wouldn't do that to me.....would he????!!!!

[FirinBlanks]

I think actually the most important thing to remember is that it's YOUR wedding, things will go wrong and not to get too het up about things that don't matter.

Mine was (and remains to this day) the best day of my life.

[meeee]

I got married abroad (nothing like don't tell the bride on TV tonight I hassen to add) mainly as I don't like large crowds so I would not have enjoyed a church wedding or anything with lots of people. We took the money we would have spent on entertaining lots of people, many of which I would only have Vaguely known and jetted of to sri lanka and got married on a beach.

We even had an elephant @ the wedding.

[jayjay]

My advice.

Dont do it!

Ok, so your gonna do it.
As has been mentioned, it's your day. Ensure its your day. Make it clear to the photographer its your day. Not aunt besises day who appears loaded with money and appears she would buy lots of photos of her second cousins baby's father who she hasn't seen in years.

How natural do you want your photos. Very structured, relaxed, background, a mixture. Explain that.

A hand written letter to people not invited that are perhaps expecting to be invited. Giving reasons. I wish I'd done that anyway. In my case it proved that many in my family wished to do the same but didn't out of sense of duty or whatever. It's your day.

[Bluefish]

Don't overspend, it's one day and you may regret it if you are still paying for it for ages after, if it is not you and your fella paying for it, then go for it splash out, enjoy it's only one day

[pinkerbell]

I just got married in June and I'd advise NOT to take on too much DIY. Yeah, it's cute but it's also time consuming and bloody fiddly if you're not the crafty type (I am and even I found myself drowning!)

Secondly, be upfront about your budget with your vendors. In my job I'd rather hear the reality I have to work with and show clients just how much I can do with it than have them order more than they can reasonably afford then have to cut things further down the line.

Also - congratulations!

[Ratfinkz]

Woo someone I can share the planning etc with!!!
I'm so lucky in that both sets of parents want us to have our day and are not overbearing though help out when required! Also I love his and my partner loves mine so we'll both be happy there! If you are on a budget have a look at premier inn, we went thinking it'd be a travel lodge type place but it was so much nicer and they offer a great deal!!!

[Anne (fuzzy)]

I'd best stay out of this one. You wouldn't want my advice, been married far too long.

[kickit]

We decided to get married, organised the wedding and got married within 5 weeks.
My advice is that you can have a great wedding with all the people you want to have without it being years in the planning. We're still together and it's been 30 years......
And we had the church, the dress, the photos, the cake..all the usual stuff. So it can be done.
My other advice is don't let your bridesmaids (assuming they're not 5 year olds) hit the booze before you get to the church, or they'll forget all their bridesmaid duties and you'll be sitting outside the venue waiting while someone nips back home to get your bouquet...