Wedding help

[Ratfinkz]

Oct 24, 2012 7:34:39 GMT kickit said:

My other advice is don't let your bridesmaids (assuming they're not 5 year olds) hit the booze before you get to the church, or they'll forget all their bridesmaid duties and you'll be sitting outside the venue waiting while someone nips back home to get your bouquet...

You mean if they're 5 years old they can start drinking as early as they like?!

[Karma]

Congratulations Cass

The first thing to do, the minute you hand over any money for deposits etc, is to get some wedding insurance. It needn't cost a lot if you shop around but is essential in today's economic climate. DDs venue went bankrupt 6 weeks before her wedding

Delegate, but be specific. DD complained about her bridesmaids not pulling their weight and they complained that DD wasn't giving them any tasks. If you don't communicate what you need done then people aren't mind readers

Make a list of all your friends and relatives and think about what talents etc they have.

One of DDs friends is a hairdresser, so that was that sorted. Her partner works for a garage so that was the cars sorted. Her MIL has a talent for baking, so that was the cake sorted.

Most of all try to look forward to it without getting stressed out, it's supposed to be fun x

[genguskhan]

Wedding! Run run and don't look back I've been married 25 years next year, so it's been a while since I've had anything to do with them The couple I've been to lately the photographer has been quite poor so I would suggest getting a good one who knows what you want and you know exactly what your getting in return but have a great day

[chrisjw]

Having been cojoled twice into such an event ( I blame the drink...lol ), I'd love to contribute some advice & tips, but I might put the mockers on it..he....hee
P.S. Unsurprisingly, I'm now single...lol

[ChillerVapes]

I'm getting married next may, my advice is the sooner you start on it the better. I would also suggest if your wanting a church wedding you get in contact with the chosen church asap because if you live outside the parish boundary (like I do) then you will have to go to that church for about 6 months to be aloud.

Do a budget 1st what you can afford pm and then break the bits and bats up over the remaining months and work it so you are spending exactly what you can afford each month on the wedding.

Eg: to spend each month: 500
items:

venue: 2000
car: 500
cake: 250
suit hire: 300
dress: 900
church: 400
decorations: 300
bridesmaids: 300
honeymoon: 3000
total: 7950

month 1:
500 dress
month 2:
400 dress / savings account 100
month 3:
300 decorations / 300 bridesmaids (-100 from savings)
etc etc until it's all paid.
If you have paid for everything with a few months to spare, still keep putting the money in your savings account as it will make your honeymoon more unforgettable. (more money might not buy you friends, but you can spend it having a bloody great time away!)

[kurotoshiro]

This is funny. But also largely true, and worth bearing in mind.

[giles]

Congratulations! #icon_bravo#

Don't believe Seinfeld - no reason why it can't be a great party.
I've had a marvellous time at weddings, but then I'm 'one of the oldest people you know'.

Have a great day

[womble]

Congratulations. Knowing the Irish and being involved with a couple of weddings there in the past, my advice would be to do everything yourself and do not let the mothers get involved.

[pinkvaper]

Some great advice thanks guys!Im looking at venues right now and my question is this-do I pick the fancier venue with less trimmings or a plainer venue with all the extras? I like the look of a particular castle(kinnity castle) but to get absolutely everything on my checklist it's a bit over budget....otherwise there's a plain ish hotel with everything I could want and more well within budget....heart or head or do I choose another venue somewhere between the beautiful castle and the boring hotel???

[pinkerbell]

Head!

It's the people that make a memorable day, not the location.

[beautycat]

Does the hotel have grounds for photos